Tuesday, September 15, 2009

Living With a Narcissitic Personality Disordered Spouse

I've been married for many years to someone who was only recently diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder. After an initial period of losing my mind, I decided to sit back, analyze the situation. Seeing that I was not in any imminent danger, nor do I have any children to worry about, I instead am sticking around and enjoying the show.

It's fascinating in a way... sort of like living with Ted Bundy, only my spouse has emphysema, needs oxygen 24/7, can't walk more than 2 steps, uses a motorized scooter, and is entirely dependent on me.

Think Bette Davis and Joan Crawford. Think rats on silver platters.

LOL

No, I'm not sadistic. I really am quite harmless. Wouldn't hurt a fly. My spouse is lucky.

But I'm no angel and I think after many years of her narcissitic hammering me into submission without my being aware of what was happening, I'm entitled to a chuckle or two at her expense now.

Also, I hope to enlighten any women (my wife is a male to female transsexual) who are under a man's thumb and may not be aware of the harm they are doing to themselves-- by not speaking up, by allowing themselves to be controlled by men. Yes, even strong women, compassionate women, competent women, being controlled by men in the 21st century, in the USA, when you'd think we should know better...

I heart women, my best friends are women, but I heart men, too. There are great guys out there, darn it, and they are the unsung heroes while the narcissistic male assholes grab the spotlight and unsuspecting women swoon.

I just want to balance the scales a bit. That's all.

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